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Post by astrivid on Apr 21, 2016 5:21:22 GMT
I recently cleaned out a whole bunch of rps. People who haven't responded for weeks, months, I had two that have gone silent for over a year. I was attached to most of them, but after asking them something like 'Hey are you okay? You need to talk?' and waiting a few days/weeks without anything I'll normally just d/c.
Being in a unresponsive rp makes me very paranoid/depressed. I feel like I've done something wrong and d/cing eases the burden. Sometimes I'll leave someone I like some sort of contact info or ask them to take up the prompt again if they're willing and explain what's up with me.
From that I've had quite a few people re-take my prompts to either apologize and go from where we left off (which is fine, though awkward if I d/ced if I was uncomfortable with the rper) or hurl slurs and insults my way. How DARE I leave them!
Honestly each time that last situation happens I want to rip my hair out. You realize you're only making me more justified in leaving, right? I understand wanting to vent, and I'm sure a lot here has had someone d/c on them and break their heart, but throw your salt somewhere else. Please.
If you d/c on someone you're justified in doing it. Even if its just a gut feeling of 'this isn't right'. If they're making you uncomfortable then go. If you don't feel that the rp is going somewhere you want it to then go. Whatever reason you have, big or small, if you need to go then go.
I like to try and leave a little message explaining why or at least saying sorry, but there have been points where I've flat out d/ced. It's not fun for anyone but sometimes things happen.
Just please- respect your fellow rpers and leave them be. As bitter/upset/hurt you may feel, its better to find someone who suits you better and let old rps just be old rps. Learn from it and move on.
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Post by Chairubplay on Apr 21, 2016 11:13:27 GMT
Bless this post. I can't tell you the amount of bad experiences I've had as a result of disconnecting on somebody who just couldn't accept that I was done with a roleplay, included but not limited to receiving graphic descriptions of how my character was beaten to death as a result of "people who can never be happy with a reply," slurs and suicide bait, and connecting to every single one of my prompts with the same essay on why I was a bad person for leading roleplayers on and then leaving without a word. Before Cherubplay imposed the function that limited you to one connect to the same prompt a day, this problem was so much worse, but it's eternally soured me on people reconnecting to one of my prompts, even if they approach me very politely.
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Post by Dave Strider on Apr 21, 2016 11:19:59 GMT
I can't tell it has happened to me a lot, because I make a point out of having very different OOC intros with every prompts so I can't be recognized, and not reposting immediately when I disconnect out of fear of being reconnected on. Well, that second part is a bit useless now that the function Chair mentioned is here, but I'm still paranoid.
In total, it happened three or four times. And no one was exactly rude to me, but seeing the posts in the tags, and now in here, where you all mention the slurs etc that you received just for disconnecting makes me even more anxious honestly.
I reconnected to a prompt once, I'll admit it. But when I did, I pretended I knew nothing, that I wasn't the same person, and gave a different reply, even if it was the same character. I doubt the person caught on with my trick, but even then, I feel kinda bad. Well, they had only disconnected on my ass because I hadn't replied in weeks. But still. I feel like a douche.
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Post by rainekitty on Apr 21, 2016 14:24:30 GMT
I maybe repost a prompt either when I'm really bored and my current rps are being slow, or I've had no good replies to a prompt I really like. So...never had this problem. -shrug-
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Post by astrivid on Apr 21, 2016 17:36:33 GMT
See I repost my prompts a lot because I like having a bunch of different rps up, and a majority are all a generic 'Here's a list of who I can play and who I'm looking for' followed by the premise of the rp I'm looking for. With the way I write them I think is pretty obvious it's me because I set up each prompt in the same way, so I've even gotten people who recognize my writing and harassing me about an rp I left.
It gets tiring, but typically when they take the prompt once to yell at me and d/c its done. I have had a handful of people take my prompts multiple times to spam me but then I just talk to the person running cherubplay and they get blocked or something I don't know.
Then you get the people who re-take your prompt when you have a running rp with them and ask if you're still interested in the rp you're currently running with them. I understand why, but I always say I'm reposting for variety and when someone does that it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
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Post by Chairubplay on Apr 21, 2016 17:38:07 GMT
Then you get the people who re-take your prompt when you have a running rp with them and ask if you're still interested in the rp you're currently running with them. I understand why, but I always say I'm reposting for variety and when someone does that it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. WHY COULDN'T THEY JUST BUMP THE CHAT YOU ALREADY HAVE... |
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Post by astrivid on Apr 21, 2016 17:40:21 GMT
Then you get the people who re-take your prompt when you have a running rp with them and ask if you're still interested in the rp you're currently running with them. I understand why, but I always say I'm reposting for variety and when someone does that it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. WHY COULDN'T THEY JUST BUMP THE CHAT YOU ALREADY HAVE... BECAUSE EVERYTHING IS PAIN FOREVER |
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Post by Dave Strider on Apr 21, 2016 17:42:22 GMT
MMM WATCHA SAY
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Post by Nepeta on Apr 21, 2016 19:52:59 GMT
I get so scared of this, if I DC from someone, I retire that prompt for like, a month. And it sucks, because a lot of the time it's a prompt I REALLY like. But I'm too much of a scaredy cat to stick around and chance them reconnecting.
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Post by rainekitty on Apr 22, 2016 6:10:02 GMT
OK. Wow. So that happened. Someone connected on me twice, just to tell me they didn't like my prompt. UHm..okay. I don't care, please let me rp with someone who might see the prompt and does want to rp this. Swear to god...
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Post by Chairubplay on Apr 22, 2016 9:17:47 GMT
Welcome to the club!
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Post by nukacherry on Apr 22, 2016 14:38:38 GMT
Then you get the people who re-take your prompt when you have a running rp with them and ask if you're still interested in the rp you're currently running with them. I understand why, but I always say I'm reposting for variety and when someone does that it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. WHY COULDN'T THEY JUST BUMP THE CHAT YOU ALREADY HAVE... This has only happened twice to me but I've ended the chat or stopped responding to it both times because dang. Way to be inconsiderate and come off as whiny for replies. |
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